My data on newlywed couples indicate that more husbands are being transformed. About 35 percent of the men we've studied fall into the category of
"emotionally intelligent husbands". Research from previous decades suggests the number used to be much lower. Because this type of husband honors and respects his wife, he will be open to learning more about emotions
from her. He will come to understand her world and those of his children
and friends. He may not emote in the same way that his wife does, but he
will learn how to better connect with her emotionally. As he does so, he'll
make choices that show he honors her. When he's watching the football
game and she needs to talk, he'll turn off the TV and listen. He is choosing
"us" over "me