“I’m a graphic designer, and I’m trying to be
more assertive at work. My bosses tell me that I
need to use my voice more. Whenever my work
gets criticized, I have a tendency to say: ‘You’re
right.’ Or ‘I agree.’ I don’t really stand up for my
own decisions, even though I had good reasons
for making them. Whenever I’m around my
friends, I can be sarcastic and obnoxious and say
things without thinking about them. But for some
reason that confidence doesn't transfer to the
workplace. It’s especially frustrating because I
know that there’s this stereotype of quiet,
agreeable Asian females. And I feel li